Simplifying Science

Consent is Gender Neutral

Such an important article from Lisa Damour! I cannot state loudly enough how important I think it is to flip the conversation and think about it through the lens of our boys. Consent is gender neutral. And affirmative consent - the idea that every single physical move is mutually acceptable and agreed upon - sets a nearly impossible standard with complicated ramifications. Lisa, I love your last line in this article: "We owe it to our adolescents to remind them that healthy intimate relationships are about a lot more than securing agreement in bed."


When adults talk to young people about sex, the standard speech includes the warning that they must obtain consent before stepping up intimacy to the next level. Here’s the problem: guidance that centers on the term “consent” suggests that a legal standard for permissible sexual interactions is also a decent or desirable one.

Which it isn’t.